Friday, 25 September 2015

Update & Our Bucket List

Hello again everyone :)

I'm just popping in with an update :) .We have just over nine months left until our wedding and it is becoming very real that we are going to be Mr and Mrs P soon. I will be blogging a lot more regularly from now on! 

Soo... what have we been up to?

Since starting my blog, Mr P and I have been going through some challenging times fertility wise and this has been completely taking over any joy that the wedding planning and house rennovating should come with! I've kept this all quiet for so long and now I realise it doesn't have to be that way, it shouldn't be a taboo subject. 

Lots of people when they think of people going through fertility struggles, think of people in their 40's, people who for whatever reason have waited to have children, whether by choice or not (And that's totally okay too! People judge far too easily when it comes to this baby making stuff).

But it's not just those that are older that struggle with this, some people in their 20's like us, do as well. 

I just wanted to talk about this as I think it's important. 

We knew due to a previous operation I'd had to remove an ovarian cyst, that it would maybe be a challenge to have children but nothing could of prepared us for how hard and heartbreaking it actually was. 

We are literally so sick and tired of seeing and hearing in the news about how people should have children young and not wait. What is telling women that constantly really achieving? First up, what makes people think that it is always someone's choice to wait? It's not. Yes, fertility declines with age, people know that, but the media just makes those who did have to wait feel worse, like somehow it's their fault, when none of this is ever an individuals fault. Maybe they have struggled through bad relationships and only just found the right person for them, or maybe they did want to focus on their career first. There is nothing wrong with that.

And second up, that makes us, as twenty somethings who are supposed to be at our most fertile, feel abnormal and alienated!

Here are a few things you need to know about fertility struggles:

- It's isolating and very lonely. It can feel very unfair and you feel less of a woman/man.

- You can't possibly understand unless you have been there yourself.

- Relaxing won't help.

-  You begin to really doubt the phrase "money doesn't buy happiness" when you are told the best chance of a successful pregnancy is through a private clinic.

- It's tough on a relationship. Really tough. Any romance totally goes when you are taking fertility medications and being told when to have intercourse by a consultant whilst he is doing an internal ultrasound.

- If you used to have a fear of needles, you definitely won't after going through fertility struggles. Day 3 bloods, day 21 bloods, a HSG (not a needle but it isn't nice) , more blood tests, yet more blood tests, injections for some. Oh and more blood tests when you do get pregnant to check your hcg is rising properly. Then there is the over 13 vials of blood some people have to have taken for immune testing/killer cells testing for IVF. There is recurrent miscarriage testing, and the list continues. Lets not forget the STI urine and blood tests you have to have regularly even though you have been with the same partner in a serious relationship for years. 

- You don't like people anywhere near your phone for fear they see your 5 apps related to tracking your cycle.

- You've spent more on pregnancy tests than a lot of people have spent on their car. And you have the ability to see pink lines on every white surface.

-BFN, BFP, EWCM, CM, TTC , LTTTC, AF, all become part of your daily vocab.

The list could go on but you get the idea.

Here are some do's and don'ts if you have a friend or relative struggling with infertility/miscarriages etc.

-DON'T ask somebody when they are planning to have children/have another if they haven't already volunteered the info themselves. Yes this might be a seemingly innocent question but you don't know who has been trying to conceive for years or who has just lost their baby that week.

-DON'T tell us it's simple and to just have a few drinks and a night in with each other. Medical problems often require medical intervention, not a few glasses of wine and some romantic gestures... but wouldn't that be lovely.

-DON'T offer up your children when your childless friend is telling you their struggles. Yes, it's a joke but we want to know you appreciate yours and besides, we want our own baby!

-DON'T.. please don't... ever utter the words "You can always just adopt." There is no "just adopting" . It is also a very long, painful and expensive process and although that will be an option for many, we all want our child to be a mixture of ourselves and the person we love. 

-DON'T act awkward around us if you are pregnant. We are happy for you, no one would wish it on their worst enemy. It just makes us feel guilty and even more isolated if you act different around us.

-DON'T say the words "At least you know you can get pregnant" as soon as somebody loses a baby. 

-DO: Be there for your friend, don't try and make them feel better, just agree with them as to how unfair it is. That is all we need sometimes.

-Unless you have been through it DO acknowledge you won't understand, but say you will try to do your best too.

-Whilst we don't want you to act awkward around us about your own baby news etc, anyone struggling really appreciates it if you DO tell them via text/email/phone to give them some time to absorb it before seeing each other face to face. We are super happy for you but sometimes we just need a good cry afterwards too.

-DO look up different medications taken during trying to conceive/ pregnancy so you can have some understanding of the extra hormones that will be in your friends body and the side effects they will be experiencing.

- DO be over the moon for them when they get there, but don't assume this makes it all go away. It doesn't end at the positive test. Pregnancy after infertility or previous losses is a huge huge worry.

-DO invite us to your baby shower. Again, please don't make us feel awkward.

-DO understand that just like with any other medical problem,sometimes the only thing that will help us is cold hard science!

Thank you if you have read this far :). I can guarentee there will be someone you know going through this right now and you have no idea about it. 

Currently, Mr P and I are waiting for me to have an op in the new year to try and remove some of my scarring. We will then be told whether to continue trying or whether IVF is the best option for us. 

Pregnancy will be a very scary time for us and we will need progesterone medication to support the pregnancy at first as well as blood tests and monitoring. 

I hope this has given people an insight, as to how someone you know who has suffered infertility and/or losses will be feeling.

This brings us onto our Bucket List. We came up with this to keep ourselves distracted and positive until the date of my op. We are so so glad for my business that has enabled us to be able to do these things!

It is a list of things we would find a lot more challenging or impossible to do with a baby!


Our Before Baby Bucket List:

1. Spa Day (I won one for doing well in the business this summer)

2. Afternoon Tea - with champagne

3. Ice Skating

4. A break away to Venice this winter

5. Cinema

6. Theatre

7. Watching the sunrise on the beach with a picnic

8. A repeat of our first dates. Bowling, drinks and then going to the local nature park. Then the next day the beach and for a meal

9. A fancy meal

10. Go to Go Ape

I will be documenting us working through our bucket list on this blog, as well as more about the fertility side of things, my new job as a success coach, and more wedding plans. As well as the odd review of cosmetics etc :)

Thank you so much for reading and will write soon :) 

Miss P

X





Tuesday, 2 June 2015

Wedding Rings

We have our wedding rings!

We chose and ordered them in September and then they turned up on my birthday in March! Was a lovely birthday surprise!



 
Going to be back soon with some product reviews and also we are thinking of starting a vlog and our first video is going to be a "Fiance does my makeup". Who else has a vlog? What are you favourite things to vlog about? Leave a comment below! xxx

I'm back!

Hello,

I'm back blogging after a long break without it! I can't believe it's almost been 9 months since I last wrote in my blog! I've been so busy with uni work and renovating our house that I totally neglected my blog, but my plan is not to do that again!

Update of where we are with the house:

Main bathroom almost done

En suite and downstairs loo are works in progress

We have made a vegetable bed in the garden and are currently getting some veg started in our little greenhouse. Will probably blog our seedlings progress over the next couple of weeks too!

We have a carpet down in our lounge now that our parents kindly gave us when they got a new carpet.

We also have sofas and armchairs bought!

So we have done quite a lot with the house and been super busy as you can probably tell from the absence!

I'm finished my final year of university now and currently waiting on the results.

BIG UPDATE: We now have three gorgeous kittens who are my world. More to follow on them...

I have also joined Forever and at the moment I'm waiting for my starter box to arrive and I am SUPER excited to start lending friends the products to try out. My skin has just been awful recently and I have very high hopes that their products will sort it out for me!

Soo just a little update as a very quick post. We have also now bought our wedding rings which I will attach pictures of in another post!!

Thank you for reading xxxx

Friday, 29 August 2014

Miss Dior- Blooming Bouquet

I finally got sent a sample from What's In My Handbag and was super excited!






This perfume is absolutely gorgeous, a lovely sweet floral scent that is perfect for summer days! It manages to be girly without being overpoweringly sweet. 

I love it and it is a definite contender for my wedding day perfume!! :)

Millie

X

Ps. I've been super busy lately with house renovations and so haven't had much time to blog but I have lots of posts coming up- promise! :)


Friday, 8 August 2014

Summer Wishlist!

Hello everyone,

As you all know, I am in the midst of saving up to renovate our new house and for our wedding! This leaves me with very little cash to be able to spend on what I like to call "fashion and beauty essentials" - makeup and clothes of course!!

So I figured what I would do is to create a wishlist- things I am so wanting right now but haven't been able to buy (as of yet!).

Firstly I am so loving  She Inside at the moment- so many pretty clothes for bargain prices! I'm a fan of their facebook page and they are always showing amazing outfit combinations that makes me want to buy the whole thing, like now!!


I really want a pair of these gorgeous shorts- daisy prints are so cute right now! You can buy them here.

With them I would pair this super cute chiffron vest: 
which can be found just here

As for shoes, I was browsing the iPanema Flip Flops website when I came across these beauties: 


They are a flip flop and a sandal combined which I think along with the daisy print shorts gives that really effortless chic look! The strap on these shoes is one of the main reasons I love them, I think it turns standard flip flops into something really feminine and cute. These are my new must have for the beach!! You can buy them here.

I totally love this necklace from New Look at the minute and think it adds that pop of pink to any outfit- something I love being super girly and a lover of all things pink!!
You can buy this here.

A brand I am really getting into at the moment is Michael Kors- I've seen a few watches and I totally want them! Now I've moved onto daydreaming over the bags too.

I couldn't narrow it down to just one or even several bags... I want them all! Browse the collection available to readily buy in the UK here!

So that's my summer outfit I am completely lusting over this week!

Here are a few beauty extras I am super lusting on too:


I was in town with a friend the other day when I smelt this for the first time and although it's not a new fragrance, this is top on my wish list for a day time perfume! It's floral and sweet notes ensure it has a romantic and dreamy smell however it does this without being overbearing or sickly sweet- love it! You can purchase this here.

I love a red lipstick and I am dreaming over this Yves Saint Laurent shade: Rouge Pur Couture. Described as "seductive, passionate and scandalous" this is a deep matte red this is sure to add that touch to any outfit! You can buy this here.



Lastly I am crushing on this Body shop blusher:


Both a blusher and a highlighter 'Baked-to-Last' looks a perfect makeup bag addition for summer in order to get that pop of shimmer in the sun! You can buy this online here.



So that's my Summer 2014 wishlist! What's on your wishlist this summer? Keep tuned into my blog where next post I will be showing you what's in my makeup bag as well as revealing my ideas for my bridal eye makeup! 

Happy summer everyone!

Millie

X


Friday, 1 August 2014

Sweet Pea Flowers






One of our neighbours gave us a bunch of sweetpea flowers from her garden this week which I thought was super cute!!

We don't have a vase yet!




For our wedding table decorations we are wanting white & pink sweetpea flowers. Especially if we can find a nice selection of different shades of pink; I think it will look so sweet and romantic, yet not too OTT.

They also smell AMAZING!

What did you use as your wedding table flowers? Let me know in the comments!

Millie

X

Monday, 28 July 2014

Wedding Countdown

I bought the cutest wedding countdown door hanger this week.



A new step in my morning routine is going to be chalking on this just how many months is left until the day I say "I do".

Millie

X